Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.


I truly believe that I can do anything. I also truly believe that you can do anything. But neither of us can do everything. And that is where our support systems come into play.

The best support systems are comprised of people who truly take stock in what we are doing. They are emotionally invested in our success. They are the yin to our yang, and we are part of the yang to their yin. Without them, our success simply cannot come full circle. But… what use is a support system if we’re not willing to rely upon it?

Asking for help, of course, is much easier said than done. In my many years working with clients in a therapeutic setting, asking for help is the one piece of advice that gets the most push-back. So many people see it as a sign of weakness, but, in reality, it’s the exact opposite. Asking for help is one of the most meaningful examples of self-reliance there is. In doing so, you will:

  • Welcome with open arms the support you need to bring your life to the next level
  • Gain an authentic understand of yourself and all that you need to succeed
  • Discover new resources that can help fulfill your needs
  • Build trust and develop confidence in yourself

So, you know you need a support system. And you know you need to use that support system. But who is in your support system? How can you fill your roster with absolute rock stars?

The only prerequisite for the members of your support system is this: they must, must, must have a positive worldview and an “anything is possible” mentality. Cheerleader-like qualities are also beyond valuable. Finally, they must believe in you and support your goals.

  • Identify key players in any of the following networks, and start building a bulletproof team:
  • Family and loved ones; Be clear about how you see these people supporting your personal and professional goals
  • Mentors; If you want what they have, do what they do
  • Accountability partners; Members of a networking group, or other people who will hold you accountable and give you the “tough love” you’ll undoubtedly need at some point
  • Compassionate colleagues; People in your industry who totally “get it”
  • Mentees; One of the best ways to learn is by teaching someone else

When you surround yourself with glass-half-full people, you’ll find it’s easy to share thoughts, ideas, concerns, frustrations, and goals—and you’ll receive feedback, reap the benefits of brainstorming, and receive amazing suggestions. And, to keep the good energy flowing both inwards and outwards, you can return the favor by listening to and supporting the members of your support system when they need it!

This is all just scratching the surface of what it looks like to build your rock star support system and ask for help. Knowing which types of people to avoid, as well as how to go about removing them from your life, is another huge part of putting together a team of winners to support you on your journey towards personal or professional transformation.

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teri karjala

Teri devotes herself to being the resource people need to uncover their greatest levels of joy and fulfillment in their everyday lives. From teaching courses, keynoting powerhouse events, and being a consistent abundance advocate, onlookers cannot help but leave her presence feeling energized, equipped, and ready to live life to its greatest capacity.

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